The Bride Price Mentality: Balancing Tradition and Equality in Marital Practices

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         In many communities across Africa, Asia, and beyond, bride price remains a significant marital tradition. Often presented as a gesture of honor to the bride’s family for raising a daughter, it can symbolize respect and family unity.  Yet, in some contexts, this practice carries an uncomfortable undertone: it can imply that women are goods to be exchanged, that love requires payment, and that marriage prioritizes economic ties over mutual partnership. For generations, bride price has been called tradition. But for many women, especially where it’s transactional, it can feel like a contract—one that shapes their value and limits their freedom. By exploring its complexities, we can honor cultural heritage while addressing its challenges in today’s world. Where Bride Price Shapes Marriage Dynamics Nigeria Among Nigeria’s Igbo, Yoruba, and Hausa communities, bride price is a cultural cornerstone, ranging from symbolic gifts to su...

The Career Lie: Only Certain Jobs Lead to Wealth in Nigeria

        There’s a silent pressure many Nigerians live with—a belief passed from parent to child, teacher to student, and even pastor to congregation—that only a select few careers lead to wealth.
We’ve all heard it:
Be a doctor, lawyer, engineer, banker—na that wan dey bring money.

This belief is so deeply rooted in our culture that even when people know it’s not working anymore, they still hold on, because letting go feels like failure.
 But the truth? This mindset is not just outdated—it’s harmful. It creates false hope, unnecessary competition, career frustration, and in many cases, poverty disguised as “professional success.”

So let’s talk about it honestly. Let’s pace ourselves through this conversation—because it’s not about attacking what you studied or what your parents believe. It’s about freeing you from a trap that has held too many back for too long.


The Roots of the Myth

        In the past, these careers—medicine, law, engineering, accounting—were seen as direct tickets out of poverty. And for a while, they were. They were stable, respected, and came with guaranteed jobs and steady income. 

Being a doctor or lawyer in the 1980s or 1990s meant social class, access to opportunities, and prestige. Our parents saw it work, so they passed the formula down. But times have changed. The economy has changed. The world has changed.

There are poor doctors. There are struggling lawyers. There are broke engineers. Your job title is not your bank balance. Your profession is not your wealth. It’s what you do with it that matters now.

We’re now in a digital age, where skills and innovation matter more than titles. Where someone with a camera, laptop, or smartphone can earn in dollars while someone with a law degree might still be job-hunting after NYSC.

But we refuse to update our thinking.
We still force children into JAMB choices they don’t want. We still look down on vocational and creative paths. We still treat careers outside the “top 5” as plan B—even when those other paths are thriving today.


The Emotional Trap: Chasing Status, Not Purpose

         For many people, career choices in Nigeria aren’t based on interest, skill, passion or purpose—they’re based on status, pride and public approval.
It’s not “What am I good at?” but “What will people respect me for?
We chase titles, not outcomes.

We chase professions for respect.

We stay in them for fear of shame.

We suffer in silence to protect family expectations.

       This emotional trap pushes people into professions they hate, jobs they don’t thrive in, and degrees that don’t serve them. Then they graduate, enter an overcrowded job market, get underpaid, and feel stuck. Depression sets in. Resentment grows. 

They keep hoping things will “click,” not realizing the market doesn’t reward effort—it rewards solutions. This is the danger of career idolatry in Nigeria. We’ve turned certain jobs into gods, and we sacrifice our dreams at their altar.


Reality Check: Wealth Is Not a Career—It’s a Skillset

        Let’s be clear: wealth doesn’t come from a specific profession. It comes from:
Understanding how money works.

Having a high-value skill or service.

Knowing how to market that skill.

Creating value for others and being paid for it.

Managing and multiplying money over time.

The world is no longer structured to reward traditional careers by default. Nigeria’s economy, in particular, is unstable. Government jobs are underfunded. The private sector is over-saturated. And degrees won't make you rich without financial skills, market positioning, and strategy.

       Meanwhile, the global economy is shifting toward skills, not titles. People are monetizing their knowledge in new ways—courses, consulting, coaching, digital products, side businesses. If you don’t adapt, you’ll be left behind.

There are doctors who are broke, and carpenters who are buying houses. There are engineers earning 80k per month and Engineers earning 800k per week.

        Wealth has less to do with your job title and more to do with how you think about money, time, opportunity, and risk.
But our system never teaches that. We teach degrees, not direction. We teach obedience, not creativity. We say, “Do what we say,” not “Find what works for you.”


Why This Matters

        If you’re a professional in Nigeria waiting for your career alone to make you rich, you may be waiting forever. It’s not about quitting your job or disrespecting your profession—it’s about evolving. Adapting. Thinking beyond a paycheck.

Because while our parents were right about hard work, they never taught us how to multiply income or adapt to changing times. In fact, the more rigid you are about your “field,” the more financially frustrated you might become. 

Because employers are broke. Industries are shrinking. Government jobs are slow. The private sector is saturated. And only those who adapt will survive.Now it’s your turn to rewrite the script.


So What Should You Do?
    
       Let’s talk practical now—because this is not just about exposing the myth. It’s about helping you find your way out.
Here’s how to move forward:
1. Expand Your Market Beyond Nigeria
       If your profession is transferable—medicine, law, engineering, design, or education—start looking at global markets.

Can you take online gigs? Freelance internationally? Get remote clients?
You might be earning ₦250k here, but that same service could be worth $1,000/month online. Learn how to position yourself globally.


Dr. Mike, a licensed doctor on YouTube 


2. Monetize Your Knowledge
       What you know can pay you more than what you do.
A doctor can teach health workshops.

A lawyer can create digital legal templates.

An engineer can create YouTube tutorials or consulting services.

      You already have knowledge people need—package it.


Aproko doctor teaches people how to live healthier


3. Productize Your Profession
         Create something once, and let it work for you. This could be ebooks, online courses, templates, or paid communities.
Think: What problem do I solve daily in my field? Now, how can I turn that into a product?


4. Start a Niche Business Around Your Expertise
      You don’t have to start a business far from what you know.
A doctor can open a private clinic or telehealth service.
An accountant can offer bookkeeping services to small businesses.
An engineer can launch a technical training program.
Turn your 9–5 knowledge into a side income stream.


5. Industries Collabo
        Your value increases when you combine your profession with other skills.
A lawyer + social media = legal content creator.

A doctor + writing = health blogger or media expert.

An engineer + software = product development consultant.
Think hybrid skills. It opens doors.


6. Teach. Coach. Guide.
         If you’ve mastered your field, people will pay to learn from you. Start a mentorship program. Offer one-on-one consulting. Host live classes. You’ve paid with time and sweat to learn—now make that knowledge work for you.


7. Invest Outside Your Career
          Even if you love your profession, your job should not be your only stream of income. Start investing early. Land, small real estate, agriculture, crypto forex, tech.
Let your salary fuel your wealth, not limit it.


8. Learn How to Sell.
          You may be talented, but if you don’t know how to package, pitch, and price your value, you’ll be invisible. Study marketing. Learn branding. Understand your audience. The money follows attention and solutions.


Chude, a Nigerian journalist on YouTube 

9. Build Multiple Streams of Income.
          Don’t wait for that one perfect job. Even doctors now run online courses, pharmacies, or health blogs. Build small side hustles, test business ideas, offer freelance services. The goal is freedom, not just employment.


10. Redefine Success for Yourself.
          Success is not one-size-fits-all. It’s not being a banker or tech bro—it’s doing what aligns with your strengths, values, and financial goals. And doing it with integrity.

11. Free Yourself from Shame.
           If you need to leave a “prestigious” job to start again—do it. If you want to pursue a career your parents don’t understand—do it. If you want to break a generational mindset—do it. Because your life is yours. And your poverty or wealth will be yours too.



 Wake Up Before Life Wakes You

         We need to stop pretending. This idea that only “certain careers” lead to wealth has left too many talented Nigerians broke, bitter, and boxed in.

The world is evolving fast. And if you don’t evolve with it, you’ll find yourself working hard and earning nothing. Chasing respect and losing time. Holding a title and holding back tears. So here’s your permission to drop the myth. To unlearn what no longer serves you. To find your own path, build your own wealth, and stop waiting for a career to save you.

Because at the end of the day, it’s not the degree that determines your future—it’s what you do with what you know. Your degree is valid. Your career is honorable. But don’t confuse stability with wealth.

You can open your mind, stretch your skills, and turn your career into a platform—not a prison. And if you’ve read this far, it means something in you is ready to change. Honor that feeling. It’s never too late to rethink everything.



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