The Bride Price Mentality: Balancing Tradition and Equality in Marital Practices

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         In many communities across Africa, Asia, and beyond, bride price remains a significant marital tradition. Often presented as a gesture of honor to the bride’s family for raising a daughter, it can symbolize respect and family unity.  Yet, in some contexts, this practice carries an uncomfortable undertone: it can imply that women are goods to be exchanged, that love requires payment, and that marriage prioritizes economic ties over mutual partnership. For generations, bride price has been called tradition. But for many women, especially where it’s transactional, it can feel like a contract—one that shapes their value and limits their freedom. By exploring its complexities, we can honor cultural heritage while addressing its challenges in today’s world. Where Bride Price Shapes Marriage Dynamics Nigeria Among Nigeria’s Igbo, Yoruba, and Hausa communities, bride price is a cultural cornerstone, ranging from symbolic gifts to su...

The Hidden Scams In Nigeria: How to Protect Your Time, Money & Success

         Scams are not new in Nigeria. From Ponzi schemes(MMM) to fake investment platforms(CBEX), to spiritual money doublers(Yahoo Plus), and online frauds promising 200% ROI, and many Nigerians have lost their life savings chasing unrealistic gains. 

But the question is: why is this so common? It goes far deeper than “greed.”
In Nigeria, falling for scams isn’t just about ignorance or greed. It’s psychological. It’s cultural. It’s systemic. From the promise of “free things” to a deeply embedded culture of manipulation, scams have taken different shapes beyond emails and Ponzi schemes.
Let’s break it down


1. Poverty-Driven Desperation:

       When survival is the goal, logic is not always in the picture. In a country with high unemployment and low salaries, a lot of people are looking for a shortcut—not out of laziness but out of necessity or desperation. Scammers exploit this desperation with the promise of “tripling your money.

Additionally, The “God don do am” mindset makes people believe that it’s something miraculous God has done for them without doing deep research on the investment opportunity. This is what scammers take advantage of.


2. Get-Rich-Quick Mentality:

      People want fast money, flashy lifestyles, and overnight success—especially among Gen Z and millennials. Many don’t want to build wealth patiently, they want it now now.

Scammers know these people want to skip the hustle. That’s why phrases like “no stress”, “guaranteed returns”, or “you don’t have to do anything” works so well. Because It feeds that fantasy.


3. Low Financial Literacy:

      Many Nigerians don’t understand how investments work and they are the same ones who will Dive head first into the next big scam.

 They can’t differentiate between a Ponzi scheme and a legitimate business model. When they see “double your money in 2 days,” it sounds believable because they have no concept of what realistic returns look like.

If you don’t know how money works, you won’t recognize when someone is lying about how it works.


4. Cultural Trust and Blind Respect:

       In Nigeria, we tend to trust people based on age, title, or tribe—not expertise. Many scams thrive because they’re pushed by a “pastor,” “chairman,” “close friends and family” , “celebrities”or someone respected in the society.

Example:
You don’t trust Pastor John again? He’s a man of God.

A titled man cannot lie to you

I’m older, if I tell you this thing will work, it will work

      This blind loyalty makes us ignore red flags. Just because it’s “family” or “church” doesn’t mean it’s safe.


5. Herd Mentality & Social Pressure:

        People often want to follow what “everyone else is doing.” If a friend or neighbor made money from something, the pressure to join increases. 

Even if it’s clearly risky, the fear of missing out (FOMO) can overpower common sense. “If everyone is doing it, it must be legit.” That’s how most scams go. Even if it’s legit let it be after doing your own research.


6. The “Free Things” Mentality

         Nigerians love awoof. There’s a deep belief that “People can get free things.” And this belief is being reinforced by influencers on social media who gives random people an unrealistic reward.

 Charity work is not the problem because Most of these videos turn out to be fake. So when someone says “you don’t need to do anything” or “just bring X amount and I’ll add my own money,” , “we're doing this because we rise by lifting others” it sounds like generousity or kindness. 

But there’s no such thing as free money. Doesn’t matter the industry or individual. You are always giving something in return. If not money, then you pay in ignorance, time, regret, or missed opportunities.

How to Spot a Scam

        Too Good to Be True? It probably is. Scams in Nigeria don’t just come from fake investment platforms. They come from people you know.
 That “church member” who offers to do a visa run for you but tell you to send the money through him. 

Or the extended cousin who convinces you to invest in a fake land scheme.


1. The Emotional Scam
       Scammers play on your fears, dreams, and urgency. In Nigeria, where survival is hard, people are constantly looking for a way out. Fraudsters exploit that.
Urgency + Hope = Scam Magnet

You’ll miss this opportunity if you don’t act now.”

People are cashing out already, don’t be left behind.

Trust me, I can’t lie to you.

      That emotional pull makes people ignore logic. Urgency with no details. If you must “act now” without time to think or ask questions, it’s a red flag.

2. Time Theft is the New Scam
      Not all scams take your money—some take your time. And time is money.
 If someone traps you in a job where you learn nothing, grow nowhere, and earn poorly, they are scamming you of your future.

 If someone manipulates you into loyalty that doesn’t benefit your growth, they’re scamming your life.

      You need to be just as alert to people who waste your time as those who try to steal your money.

3. Vague or No Legal Documents or Certifications
       No paper trail. No contract, receipt, or traceable system? Walk away. If these legal requirements are present then read them carefully either with AI or a lawyer .

 If there’s No clarity. Or you don’t fully understand what you’re putting your money or time into, don’t do it.


How to Avoid Financial Scams:

1. Ask Basic Questions: 
     If you can’t explain how the business makes money, don’t invest.
Ask: 
How do they generate profit?

How exactly does their strategy achieve the promised returns? 

Is the ROI sustainable? 

What is the normal ROI in the industry?

2. Don’t Be Pressured by Urgency:
      “If you don’t invest now, you’ll miss out.” That’s a red flag. Real businesses don’t beg or rush you. Scammers do.

3. Verify Before You Trust:
      Look beyond titles. Pastors, CEOs, even friends can fall for or run scams. Check for registration, financial audits, online reviews, and public records.

4. Understand ROI Reality: 
        Anything offering unrealistic(100%–500%, 1000%) monthly returns without clearly stating the risks involved is likely a scam. Compare returns with inflation, market trends, and standard investment gains in the industry.

5. Don’t Mix Emotion With Money:
      If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Don’t be emotionally attached to the person presenting the deal. Emotion clouds judgment.

6. Learn about money:
     Learn how to grow money the real way. Understand savings, investing, budgeting, and wealth-building strategies. The more you know, the harder it is to scam you.

7. Don’t Trust What You Don’t Understand:
       If you don’t understand cryptocurrency, forex, or any investment platform—stay away until you do.

8. Even if It’s Legit, Can you afford the risk?: 
       Sometimes the investment will turn out to be legit but can you afford to risk the amount required? Ask yourself: if I lose this money, how will it affect me. Will I be able to live with it?



           Scams thrive where desperation, ignorance, lack of research and blind trust meet. In Nigeria, we must redefine what it means to be “smart.” Being sharp is not just about catching awoof—it’s about protecting your future.

Ask questions. Delay your response. Do your research. Not every smiling face has good intentions—and not every opportunity is meant for you.

If you’re going to work hard for your money, don’t lose it trying to double it overnight. Wealth is built, not tricked into existence.


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