The Bride Price Mentality: Balancing Tradition and Equality in Marital Practices

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         In many communities across Africa, Asia, and beyond, bride price remains a significant marital tradition. Often presented as a gesture of honor to the bride’s family for raising a daughter, it can symbolize respect and family unity.  Yet, in some contexts, this practice carries an uncomfortable undertone: it can imply that women are goods to be exchanged, that love requires payment, and that marriage prioritizes economic ties over mutual partnership. For generations, bride price has been called tradition. But for many women, especially where it’s transactional, it can feel like a contract—one that shapes their value and limits their freedom. By exploring its complexities, we can honor cultural heritage while addressing its challenges in today’s world. Where Bride Price Shapes Marriage Dynamics Nigeria Among Nigeria’s Igbo, Yoruba, and Hausa communities, bride price is a cultural cornerstone, ranging from symbolic gifts to su...
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The Impact of Extended Family on Personal Finance

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           Believe it or not, people are being drained, trying to balance their finances while catering to the endless demands of others. These types of people are called “extended families” or to be more blunt, leaches. 

Leaching has become a culture in some places like Naija to the extent that the leaches or extended families feel a sense of ownership and entitlement towards someone else’s money and success. 

I would fully blame them if this wasn’t one of the most overlooked and draining factors when it comes to personal finances. For future references, extended family is anybody including your parents, uncles, cousins, aunties, your babe’s family, your babe, your siblings, your neighbors, church members, friends, friend’s family and last but not least your village people (elders)… that are demanding your resources because of their connection to you. 

Anybody can become an extended family, usually after helping them once or twice or assuming you are more financially stable than they are. They start viewing you as their financial backup.

     Signs you may experience are;
1. They take without adding value

2. Ask for money with little to no regard for your own needs and responsibilities

3. They use guilt to make you feel obligated to help

4. They believe your money is theirs even if they’ve done nothing to earn it

5. It is very rare for them to help you

6. They only contact you when they need help

7. They don’t respect your boundaries


     Genuine family members ask for help when they truly need it. They don’t pressure you if you say no. They reciprocate, even if it’s not financially. They respect your boundaries and understand your pocket.

      Be clear about what you can and cannot do, learn to say no politely..it would not make you a bad person, stop explaining yourself.. it’s your money, don't make it a habit to bail people out repeatedly, suggest other ways they can solve their problems, use your budget as an excuse.

You can avoid such people and scenarios by:
1. Not broadcasting your financial statement or plans.

2. Focus on yourself.

3. Create a budget for extended family.. if you want, involve your spouse… except she is part of the extended family 🥲.

4. Distance yourself if necessary


       Finally, are you an extended family member or do you have extended families ?🌝

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