Is Money Really the Root of All Evil? Debunking the Myth Keeping You Broke

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Key Takeaways: The phrase “money is the root of all evil” misquotes “the love of money” (1 Timothy 6:10), wrongly demonizing wealth. Negative money beliefs stifle financial growth and opportunity. Wealth is neutral; your character shapes its impact. Financial literacy and mindset shifts are critical for prosperity. Practical steps can break the cycle of limiting beliefs.      You were taught that money corrupts, but have you noticed poverty traps too? Your grandparents toiled tirelessly yet stayed poor, clinging to the belief that wealth is evil. What if this mindset, reinforced by movies, culture, and social media, is silently keeping you broke? Table Of Contents   What Is the Belief? Why It Matters Types of Negative Money Mindsets Why Your Brain Fears Wealth Global Reinforcement of the Myth Money's Dual Value: Terrible vs. Great Uses How to Assess Your Money Mindset How to Apply in Daily Life: Step-by-Step Dos & Don’ts Common Misconception...
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The Impact of Extended Family on Personal Finance

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           Believe it or not, people are being drained, trying to balance their finances while catering to the endless demands of others. These types of people are called “extended families” or to be more blunt, leaches. 

Leaching has become a culture in some places like Naija to the extent that the leaches or extended families feel a sense of ownership and entitlement towards someone else’s money and success. 

I would fully blame them if this wasn’t one of the most overlooked and draining factors when it comes to personal finances. For future references, extended family is anybody including your parents, uncles, cousins, aunties, your babe’s family, your babe, your siblings, your neighbors, church members, friends, friend’s family and last but not least your village people (elders)… that are demanding your resources because of their connection to you. 

Anybody can become an extended family, usually after helping them once or twice or assuming you are more financially stable than they are. They start viewing you as their financial backup.

     Signs you may experience are;
1. They take without adding value

2. Ask for money with little to no regard for your own needs and responsibilities

3. They use guilt to make you feel obligated to help

4. They believe your money is theirs even if they’ve done nothing to earn it

5. It is very rare for them to help you

6. They only contact you when they need help

7. They don’t respect your boundaries


     Genuine family members ask for help when they truly need it. They don’t pressure you if you say no. They reciprocate, even if it’s not financially. They respect your boundaries and understand your pocket.

      Be clear about what you can and cannot do, learn to say no politely..it would not make you a bad person, stop explaining yourself.. it’s your money, don't make it a habit to bail people out repeatedly, suggest other ways they can solve their problems, use your budget as an excuse.

You can avoid such people and scenarios by:
1. Not broadcasting your financial statement or plans.

2. Focus on yourself.

3. Create a budget for extended family.. if you want, involve your spouse… except she is part of the extended family 🥲.

4. Distance yourself if necessary


       Finally, are you an extended family member or do you have extended families ?🌝

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